But before I go further, let me set the record straight on a couple of things. Kessler wrote her blog post back in 2008, or as my dad would say, "back in my day . . . ." The point here is that with technology things change rapidly, and 2 years seems like eons ago. Yes, there weren't a great deal of choices for the noob avatar, and it's likely that there still aren't any stock avatars that would do justice to a woman wanting to perform butchness. But there are plenty of opportunities to become that butch in SL, and there are plenty of opportunities to shoot a game of pool. You just have to know how to do a search in SL. Another point worth mentioning here is that as far as I can tell, The L Word has pulled out of SL. When I go to sho.com and search for The L Word in Second Life, I get nothing. When I do a search in SL for The L Word I get one hit for The L Word South, but it is apparently a locked community, as it will not let me teleport there. So I guess The L Word, like so many, went into SL expecting one thing and when that didn't happen, they pulled out.
So let me get to my point (finally, you say). I understand that SL is not the easiest place to go and immediately feel at home. But guess what, I bet I couldn't go to China, or Japan, or some other totally foreign culture and immediately know where to go, how to act, or find people to immediately start talking to me. So why do people think they can create an avatar, log into SL, and feel right at home? Kessler argue that "without scads of leisure time and mad computer literacy, one will have a hard time in 2nd Life. I for one spent a lot of time running into walls, through the ocean, into folks, etc. (and I have a PhD). I still have no idea how to do much or get anywhere interesting. One must have serious patience, time, and money and/or skills to obtain stuff . . ." ("Where Does a Girl").
Bottom line? I'm tired of people expecting to go into SL and have everything, or anything for that matter, handed to them. Sorry folks, but SL is just that. . . it's a second life. If you want to have a meaningful experience then you are going to have to work for it just like you do in real life. It's not a computer game that you can learn a few key strokes for and have a great time killing monsters, leveling up, or completing quest. If you don't have time to observe the culture and find your way into it, then don't even bother signing up.